When it comes to relationships I hear 2 pieces of advice very often. One is along the lines of- don't settle, don't be co-dependent, you can love someone and still not be right for each other, you can do better. The other is along the lines of- you have to take the good with the bad, no one is perfect, you have to love a person's flaws, if you don't pick someone you'll be alone forever, etc. Often this stuff is coming from the same person.
So I've decided that when it comes to relationships- no one has any fucking clue what they're talking about, and I find that makes a lot of sense. People who have been married for 40 year, dear abby, dr. phil, whoever- they are all going to give you a hackneyed line about communication or some bullshit. Yeah, hackneyed lines actually mean something when giving advice about other stuff- like in filmmaking when someone says it will be better with music, that's almost always true. But human behavior can't be contained by a rhyming phrase like other, more simple things can.
Love is stupid, unpredictable and powerful. If you trust that to Dr. Phil, good luck.
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Friday, November 9, 2007
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